We had planned…, New Baby Just Laughs At Our Plans

Planned baby, Music man, baby posed on records, Charlotte NC, Fort MIll SC

We had planned…, A New Baby Just Laughs At Our Plans

My fiance and I became engaged on March 13 of this year – literally days before everything crashed down around us. We were just beginning to plan a wedding when we found out I was pregnant in early April. Needless toPilot legacy baby portrait, Charlotte NC, Fort MIll, SC say, plans have changed. We focused instead on buying our dream house and preparing to meet our little boy, Owen. My fiance, Chris, is amazing and has been so excited about this time in our lives!   

   

Describe your pregnancy journey. Have you had any surprises (good or bad)? *   

   

I got pregnant much faster than anticipated. My fiance and I agreed I should get off birth control because we knew we were planning to start a family after we were married. I’m 37, so we honestly thought it would be tougher. I got pregnant one month off birth control even though my Dr. prepared us for a long journey. What a surprise! we are so excited. It’s been newborn baby, blue, Charlotte, NC, Matthews NC, Fort Mill, NCa tough pregnancy (Still have morning sickness), but trying to find the joy and embrace this season.   

 

   

What do you imagine for your child’s future? *   

   

I want him to be HAPPY. I want him to have choices, to know he’s loved, to love others, and to be kind.   

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What would you like your baby to know about YOU? *   

   

I’d like him to know that I’m not perfect, but am going to try every day to be the best mom possible for him.   

   

Is there an encouraging message you would like to share with other expecting mothers? *   

   

You’re going to be an amazing mom!   

   

What else would you like to share?*   Mom with new baby, Charlotte NC, Fort Mill SC

   

I really want to remember this special time. I know the newborn phase can be crazy and I don’t want to have it go by and only remember it being a haze. I’d love to have photos of this time and always remember this new time for us.   

   

     

   

   

Baby is here!   

   

 

Tell us about the first moments with your baby?   

   

Overwhelming. We had to do a c-section, so the first few moments weren’t exactly as planned but seeing him for the first time made me realize the only thing that matters is having a healthy baby boy. Thankfully my husband was able to be with Owen and hold him until I was out of recovery.   

   

Any surprises in labor and delivery? Anything you didn’t expect?  

Music man, baby posed on records, Charlotte NC, Fort MIll SC   

I truly was not ready for the physical pain of contractions and the emotional pain of my ideal birth scenario going out the window.   

   

What’s the best part of being a new mom?   

   

Seeing things through his eyes. Everything is brand new to him. Then there are things that are brand new to both of us, like breastfeeding and just figuring it out together has been amazing.   

   

What’s the hardest part?   

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Worrying that I’m not doing the right thing all the time. There’s so much I don’t know.

 

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Little Love Stories: Navigating A Pandemic Pregnancy

navigating a pandemic pregnancy, newborn with family, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte NC

 

What was it like navigating a pandemic pregnancy?

  • I found out I was pregnant right when everything began to shut down which was very hard for me.  My first OB appt to confirm mysweet newborn, Charlotte NC, Marvin NC pregnancy was over the phone which really messed with me. I was finally able to go in for my 12 week appt but my bf was not allowed to come in to see our baby on the screen. Due to COVID he is still unable to come to my appts and has only seen pictures of our child.  I had a minor scare with placenta previa but I was cleared after a few weeks.
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  • What do you like to imagine for your child’s future? *
  • I want my son to be great at whatever he wants to do.
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  • What would you like your baby to know about YOU (their beautiful mama!)? *
  • I want him to know that I love him and I’ve been waiting my whole life to meet him.
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  • Is there an encouraging message you would like to share with other mothers navigating their own pandemic pregnancy? 
  • new mom with smiling newborn baby, Charlotte NC Indian land, SCYou can do this! Your body was made for this!
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  • Why are beautiful photos important for you and your family? *
  • This is my first child and I want to have beautiful memories of this experience.

 

 

After his arrival, can you share about your first moments with baby?

  • The first moments with Cameron were very precious. I didn’t cry or anything I just looked at the amazing little human we had created.
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  • Any surprises in labor and delivery? Anything you didn’t expect?
  • Nothing went according to my birth plan due to my water breaking and only being 1cm dilated. They had to administer medication. Thisnew family, baby, Charlotte NC, Tega Cay, SC prohibited me from laboring in the tub at planned and I was unable to walk around because they were monitoring him. I ended up getting an epidural because I was hungry and tired but everything worked out.
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  • What’s the best part of being a new mom?
  • The best part baby snuggles and knowing I get a chance to mold him into a great person
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  • What’s the hardest part?
  • The hardest part right now is breastfeeding.

 

 

 

 

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Notes from a first time Mom: Little Love Stories

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Notes while waiting for her baby girl…

First time mom here. I really don’t know what to expect…. I feel like it has been a very easy pregnancy from what I’ve read.expecting mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, maternity, anne springs greenway

What do you like to imagine for your child’s future? *

For her to have two supportive parents that can also help her have a love and understanding for others. To help her get through first time mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, maternity, anne springs greenwayher trials by helping her understand ours.

What would you like your baby to know about YOU (their beautiful mama!)? *

Her moms have worked a long time to get where we are today. first time moms, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, maternity, anne springs greenway

Is there an encouraging message you would like to share with other mothers? *

You’ve got this! Don’t get discouraged everything will be alright! Enjoy the highs and hope the lows go by fast.

Why are beautiful photos important for you and your family? *

first time moms, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, maternity, anne springs greenwayI want to capture moments with my child instead of just of my child.

 



First time mom notes from the first week

Tell us about the first moments with your baby?new mom with baby  mom, Rock Hill SC, Charlotte NC, newborn baby girl

The first moments with her were….. mystifying. It was like nothing I’d ever experienced before. I know this sounds dramatic but, it was that and so much more. Taken over with emotions I’ve never felt, relief, and wonder. It seemed like such a dream.

Any surprises in labor and delivery? Anything you didn’t expect?first time mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, newborn baby girl

I had a very easy labor and delivery. That surprised me because, EVERYONE said the first delivery would be the hardest. I got so many stories of 24-30 hours of labor. I was only in active labor for four hours.

What’s the best part of being a new mom?first time mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, newborn baby girl

The best part of being a new mom is, all of it; the sleepless days and nights, the smell of baby, the cuddles. The fact that the baby wants no one else. To see your baby with your spouse and how they start to grow the bond you have.

What’s the hardest part?

first time mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, newborn baby girlThe hardest part of being a new mom is trying to figure out what works for you and your baby while trying not to linger on the thoughts of someone else’s opinions and “advice” wondering if your doing everything right and keeping your baby healthy.

What surprises has this month brought you?

We have no surprises yet…. She seems pretty perfect

Any feedback from your first little love stories portrait session? Anything I can change to make it better?first time mothers, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, newborn baby girl

I feel like our first session was amazing! We are very reserved people and you were able to get us out of our shell enough to catch it on camera.

PS Notes from a first time mom after one month with her newborn

“Hey Alicia,first time mom, Rock Hill SC, Charlotte NC, newborn baby girl

I looked back at my new mom questionnaire and wanted to change the answer to a question. Parker was only 8 or 9 days and I don’t feel like I was able to properly answer the question. Since Parker will be a month old on Tues. Now I can accurately answer “what surprises has this month brought”?

The surprises this first month has brought were the things no one tells you to expect. Of course the sleepless nights, the sweet cuddles, the love you would feel are what everyone mentioned.

They don’t mention some days in the beginning you’ll forget to eat. You will want to nap when baby sleeps but your brain doesn’t shut off. You’ll be following safe sleep but still wake up with every little noise to make sure your baby is okay. You will not know what to do when your told to take a little time for yourself. Just know it will all be okay! Don’t stress yourself out. Love yourself momma!

I know it’s long but I had to let new moms know how it is. That it is ok for it to be stressful but it will be okay.”

Amber

first time mom, Fort Mill SC, Waxhaw NC, newborn baby girl

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Newborn Love Stories: Mission Surprise 17%

17% newborn love stories, never give up, baby boy blue, indian land, SC, Rock Hill, SC

During this time in your life when things are changing, and your baby is growing inside you. I’m on a mission  to capture their true selves, the newness of the beginning, how small, innocent and amazing at a time that seems to race by. Capturing the newborn stage is a wonderful gift for your child showing them, how much they are loved, waited for and cherished! But it’s also hugely important for you to have a way to remember and connect with your child back to a time before. What would you tell your baby now before he is born about your hopes and dreams for her future? What do you want to show him as he grows and changes throughout her childhood?

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In exchange for sharing your story and helping you connect to your baby now and in the future you will receive a complimentary newborn portrait session and your favorite image printed professionally as a thank you for participating. Click the button below to get started.

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Never give up on your goals or plans, it’s ok to pivot and roll with the curves life brings, but sometimes just making a new plan can help open up the opportunities to achieve your goal differently.

17% boy was she surprised

Mom was given 17% chance of conceiving with in vitro, and no chance with natural conception. After years of working with fertility doctors to conceive his parents decided to go with the adoption option. Not long after contacting an adoption service Mom learned much to her surprise, she was pregnant!

Oh my goodness she had a ton of fun and personal ideas and plans for her newborn portrait session. We had a great planning and preparing session at the studio and a big list of images she wanted for his portraits.newborn baby boy, indian land, SC, Charlotte, NC

Again we talked about this for her maternity session but she continued in her newborn session with her calm, confidence in being a new mom without any nerves or concerns.

We created some fabulous portraits of baby Adrian to remember and celebrate his newness, his birth and his future to come. But even more importantly we captured the love and connection between his parents and their joy to have a child of their own.

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I’ll be honest it’s hard… interview with a new mom from Little Love Stories

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Katie and Kameron One Month old

Congratulations Mom, your baby is one month old. How are you feeling after the 1st month? Physically, emotionally or mentally. (remember there are no right or wrong answers)

  • To be completely honest, I’m 100% drained physically, emotionally and mentally. Being a mom is HARD and the first month has been really hard. Besides the normal sleep deprivation, my little one has had a
    interview with a new mom, one month old, black and white, Charlotte, NC
    Superman
    hard time with colic and gas making him miserable every day. When your baby is miserable, it makes you miserable or feel like you’re not doing anything right. Now that we have figured out the root cause making him feel sick I’m starting to feel more confident and content as a mom. Plus I’m starting to get more sleep!

 

 

What has been your favorite part of the first month with baby?

  • Watching him do new things almost every day. I’m amazed by how much he changes. I also love seeing how much he lights up seeing his dad, grandparents and other family. He already knows who his people are even at a month old. All the baby snuggles are the best too.

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What has been a struggle? was it a surprise or expected?

  • Breastfeeding! Just when I thought I had it down/baby was getting better we took two steps backward. Everyone keeps telling me he’ll go longer between feedings and it gets easier, but every baby is different. I think the biggest thing I’ve learned it’s ok if you need to supplement with formula or pump and give bottles (to give you and your body a break). I didn’t realize how hard it would be to have a little human attached to your body 24/7. I’ve also been diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety. It wasn’t a surprise or expected, but something that has been a struggle. I think more moms/their partners should check in on their mental health because my doctor and therapist were so happy we caught it early. Apparently a lot of moms suffer in silence and go untreated, making it harder to work through later. Now that I’m on a plan to treat it I’m enjoying being a mom and my baby.

 

How has your relationship with your spouse changed over the last few months?interview with a new mom, one month old,  Charlotte, NC

  • It has brought us closer together. Our communication and teamwork has had to be on point to get through the 1st month of baby. Part of communicating is checking in on each other’s emotional and physical health, which hasn’t always been a focus for us. The other part is I’m having to rely on my husband more than ever; I’m pretty independent, so the amount of help I’ve had to have from him has been a lot. He’s taken on caring for me and baby amazingly, and it makes me love him even more. We’ve also had to be more intentional to separate being mom/dad from being husband/wife. We try to have husband/wife time every day even if it’s a 10 minute conversation that doesn’t involve talking about the baby.

interview with a new mom, one month old,  Charlotte, NC

What would you tell an expecting mom about the first month with baby?

1) Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If someone offers, take it.

2) When you get a break, basic human needs are not self-care (sleeping, showering, eating etc). Go out to get a pedicure or massage or whatever you need mentally to relax even for just an hour.

3) Check in on yourself mentally. If you’re feeling things you think you shouldn’t talk to your doctor. Postpartum depression and anxiety are common, but not something you should have to live with so you can enjoy your baby. Being a new mom is hard enough and you shouldn’t suffer in silence.

Personal side note every word of this interview is pure gold, thank you so much for sharing your words with us, Katie. I want to share them with all the moms to be and new moms who feel like it is just them. -alicia

 

Waiting For Baby: My Wish

Waiting for baby, creating a new life, wishing for his safe arrival

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My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for 4 years and on our second round of IVF we found out we were pregnant.

Describe your pregnancy journey while waiting for baby. Have you had any surprises (good or bad)?

waiting for baby, fort mill, scYes we found out our son had a clubfoot. So it is another journey we will have to go through with him. But other than a fairly normal and easy pregnancy everything else is great.

What do you like to imagine for your child’s future?

That he is happy and thriving! expecting a new love, fort mill, sc

What would you like your baby to know about YOU (their beautiful mama!)?

That we had prayed and prayed for him and he is my best accomplishment.

Is there an encouraging message you would like to share with other expecting mothers who are also waiting for baby?

Keep a good mindset and don’t compare your journey with anyone else’s.

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Why are beautiful photos important for you and your family?

To cherish those memories!

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Thank you both for sharing your story with us. -aliciaexpecting a new love, fort mill, sc

 

 

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Newborn Love Stories: Miracles do happen!

Miracles do happen, black and white pregnancy photo

My goal with every maternity portrait is to create a legacy for your family but lately I want to help more mothers. You see after more than ten years photographing motherhood I’ve found we are all in this together. And it’s hard work. I’m on a mission to share stories of real life. Of the messy middle, the beautiful beginnings and the truth that we are all in this together. Because miracles do happen even in this crazy world. 

Miracles do happen, b&W pregnancy photo, charlotte, NC

Why start with pregnancy?

It is extremely important for you to have a way to remember and connect with your child back to a time before he was born. What would you tell your baby now before he arrives  about your hopes and dreams for his future? What do you want to show him as he grows and changes throughout his childhood?

“He’s a miracle.”

you see she told me later, he was a baby she didn’t think she’d be able to carry. Pregnancy for her was something she had given up on. A dream she had put away in order to focus on the adoption journey they had just started. The doctors had told her it wasn’t in the cards for her. 

Miracles do happen, b&W pregnancy photo, fort mill SCMomma K was expecting a new baby boy and really surprised and delighted to be pregnant. She was calm and confident about the whole experience, she didn’t seem nervous about any of it, not the delivery coming up, the newborn stage, the lack of sleep. She is prepared and elated for it all! I truly believe that kind of calm, wonder and joy comes from her experiences. She dreamed of carrying a child, but she also expected to adopt. Once the door to pregnancy opened for her she was ready to enjoy every moment of it. To soak it all in and glow in the moment. 

Creating amazing images that her child will love seeing of his momma pregnant with him in her belly what an honor and gift for this mom to be. She was up for everything which is so much fun for a creative like me. 

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Because Moms can be Glamorous too

Why just get your maternity photo simply taken, when you can be pampered like a model on a climate controlled studio…

Posted by Insley Photography on Monday, November 9, 2020

 

Why just get your maternity photo simply taken, when you can be pampered like a model on a climate controlled studio set?

We’re offering an exclusive, editorial-style maternity photo shoot package, so you’ll feel just like you’re posing for a magazine cover! You deserve to celebrate your pregnancy glow and remember this special time with a professional portrait.

There are only ten spots available for this editorial-style shoot. The package includes a professional makeover and pamper session, access to our maternity closet, including designer gowns and wraps, and a fully guided maternity photoshoot experience with Alicia Insley Smith.

Ready to be pampered and have a full day of pregnancy glam? Contact me to reserve your spot today!

Holiday Portraits to Support the Humane Society of York County

Just a quick video to share that we have mini sessions available November 14th and 15th at The Faires-Coltharp Cabin at the Anne Springs Close Greenway

This is a fun mini session event to benefit your favorite 4 legged friends awaiting their forever homes at the Humane Society and having fun Holiday portraits created of your kids and pets for that Christmas card.
2020 is definitely the year to send Holiday cards to the family since the pandemic has limited travel and visits with the most vulnerable.
Plus I know a few of you adopted Covid puppies like we did. This is a great opportunity to show off that new best friend to the family and support a great cause.
 
$99 books your holiday portraits spot and includes the first set of printed Holiday cards!
 

the best things happen unexpectedly : warrior mom

waiting for you to arrive:

This is my husband (Tyler) and my first baby, and expecting a little man! My husband and I met in an internship program (for the same company we both now still work for) in summer 2017 and it’s been a fast paced love story ever since. This baby was a bit of a surprise (we just got married in October) but it has been THE BEST surprise ever. Even though 2020 is supposedly the worst year ever, we’re about to get to the best part for us ;)

We like to imagine a long, healthy life for our son doing what makes him happy!

newborn baby of warrior mom, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, York, SC

I hope we raise a good, kind, strong person who sticks up for what’s right and leaves a light wherever he goes. 

Since he will also be half black, I hope others judge him for the content of his character and not the color of his skin. Especially during this time, this has been heavy on our hearts. 

Those are the biggest things that come to mind for what we want for his future…though his dad might add D1 athlete ;)

The most important thing I want him to know is that I love him very much. I’m not perfect but I will always try my best to be the best for him. I’ve worked very hard to be where I’m at in my career, but I will work harder to make our family life a priority. I also have the best mom, so you’re lucky in the grandma department :)

black and white collage frame newborn baby, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, York, SC

Anyone whose given birth, going to give birth or a mother during this quarantine is a special type of warrior.

All mothers during this time are dealing with isolation, uncertainty of safety and economic turmoil on top of growing/raising little humans. 

I think the most encouraging thing I can say is even if this is the hardest thing we ever do, we will come out stronger. Closer to our partners/families. Well rested (hopefully, or at least better) because we’ve taken a break from running around and overcommitting ourselves. Spent more time with our partners/kids/doing self-care than before. 

Yes, we’re having virtual baby showers, birthdays and celebrations. Postponed vacations and outings. Stressed family members and friends. Even stressed and anxious ourselves. It all will come to an end eventually, and we’ll look back and go wow…we made it.

Image box newborn baby of warrior mom, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, Rock Hill, SC

I’m a warrior, and if I get through 2020 I can get through anything.

Besides being quarantined since mid-March we’ve had some interesting stuff happen. The biggest thing that’s happened is we’ve only owned one car since we got engaged, and we FINALLY got Ty his truck in April before baby got here. One night our cars were parked out front of our house, and a drunk driver crashed into both totaling mine and causing over $6k in damage on his truck we had for less than a week. Thankfully the driver was insured, but now we’re back to one car. On a positive note, since both of us have been working from home and not going anywhere we haven’t needed two cars. If it was going to happen this was the “perfect time”.

Happy news that’s happened during quarantine: one of our best friends had a healthy baby girl in March!

family embrace black and white portrait newborn baby of warrior mom, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, Tega Cay, SC

Feelings after you arrived:

Finally seeing and holding him was incredible. Looking at his face and talking to him made the rest of the room stop like no one was there. I was taken aback he was already opening his eyes to look at me like he was studying all my features like I was studying his.

I had a natural birth, so I think my biggest surprise was how out of it I really got towards the end. My husband likes to tell me the details I don’t remember, including being upset when he got Bojangles for dinner. Apparently I made him throw away the trash outside the delivery room.

newborn baby, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, York, SC

The best part of being a new mom is the baby snuggles!

I love how he’ll nudge his head right under my chin and lay there completely content. I also love learning his mannerisms and personality as it starts to show.

The hardest part of being a new mom just when you think you have it figured out, something changes and you have to adjust. It’s a lot of trial and error learning what works for your baby and you. I think the hardest part of that is sometimes not knowing what to do to console him when he’s upset because we’ve tried everything, or when he’s in pain. In those moments I wish I could snap my finger and make it go away for him, but all I can do is stay strong and comfort him.


I’m surprised by how smart babies are when they’re born. He’s already figuring out different things including attempting to kiss our faces when we go to kiss him. Also the amount of wipes we’ve used is a lot more than I thought!

black and white family portrait with newborn baby of warrior mom, Fort Mill, SC, Charlotte, NC, Tega Cay, SC
I’m honored to know this Warrior mom

and to have been able to capture these precious memories for her family. Stay tuned for more from this beautiful family as we follow their journey through the first year in the Little Love Stories Series.

Little Love Stories series is meant to capture the newness of the beginning, how small and innocent and the amazing changes that happen over the first year. Capturing the baby stage is a wonderful gift for your child.

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 -alicia